How a Simple Note Can Make a Sky Memorial Even More Meaningful
When planning a cremation memorial, many families ask the same question:
“What should I say when scattering ashes?”
Whether you're attending in person, watching from afar, or mailing ashes for an aerial ash scattering like we offer at AshDive, the right words matter. They can bring closure, express love, and carry your heart skyward alongside your loved one’s remains.
If you’re sending ashes to us for a sky memorial, we invite you to include a short note or tribute in the package. Here’s why—and how to write something that feels authentic and powerful.
Why Include a Note in the Ash Scattering Package?
At AshDive, every aerial memorial is performed with deep respect and intention. When you include a note, even just a few lines, it helps us honor your loved one as a real person, not just a name.
We read every note before the skydive. We take it with us—sometimes literally, sometimes spiritually—into the clouds. And while the words may not be spoken aloud during the release, their presence shapes the moment.
What to Say When Scattering Ashes (or Writing a Note for It)
You don’t need to be a poet. You just need to speak from the heart. Here are a few ways to structure your message:
✍️ 1. A Personal Goodbye
This is the most common. It can be short and simple.
“Dad, thank you for everything. You always dreamed of flying—now you’re finally free.”
“To my best friend Max, the most loyal dog anyone could ask for. Run free in the sky.”
✍️ 2. A Memory or Inside Joke
If your loved one had a sense of humor or a specific memory you cherish, share it.
“You always said you’d rather jump out of a plane than be buried. So here we go.”
“For the man who once said, ‘When I die, throw me into the wind.’ We’re doing just that.”
✍️ 3. A Quote, Prayer, or Poem
If you’re struggling to find words, borrow them. Here are a few you can use:
“Into the freedom of the wind and sunshine, we let you go.”
“Those we love don’t go away, they fly beside us every day.”
“The sky is not the limit—it’s where we begin again.”
✍️ 4. Just Their Name and Dates
Even this is enough. We honor it the same.
Jason Robert Miller
April 5, 1956 – October 21, 2023
Tips for Writing Your Note
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Use plain paper or card stock
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Handwritten is most personal, but typed is fine
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Keep it short—1 paragraph or less is totally okay
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Place it inside the shipping box, ideally in a sealed envelope
Do You Read the Notes Out Loud?
Sometimes. We don't offer scripted or recorded tributes (yet), but we always read your notes before the jump. If you’d like a particular phrase spoken during the release, feel free to mention that in your message—we’ll do our best to honor it.
One Final Thought
The act of scattering ashes is powerful, but what you say—or what you write—can bring just as much healing. Whether you include a heartfelt letter, a simple name, or a joke your loved one would’ve appreciated, your words become part of the ceremony.
If you’re ready to schedule a sky memorial, or you have questions about what to include, we’re here to help every step of the way.
👉 Contact us to start the planning process.